During our 2015 Oscar party, my DDIL and I both infamously voted for the “Lego Movie” as the winner in the best song category. No matter that I didn’t know that song because I forgot to watch “Lego.” And it shouldn’t have mattered that we hadn’t yet seen “Selma” and didn’t know that song. We both had busy years and weren’t up to speed on all the film stuff, despite the last few weeks of running around trying to watch everything before the red carpet started. And usually we just make a wild guess based on what we’ve heard and we get the answer right anyway.
30 seconds into John Legend’s performance of “Glory” we both knew we were done in that category and acknowledged it out loud. The rest of the partygoers said to us, “Really?!? You chose “Everything is Awesome” over “Glory?!?” What were you thinking???”
Despite that silly decision, though, I’ve been thinking that either awesome or glorious is a good target for daily my daily life outlook. Or, anywhere in between.
Since becoming fully retired I have some of “those days” where I just don’t seem to get off square one. It’s like the months right after high school or college graduation. You know the rest of your life lies before you, full of limitless opportunity, but your brain is riddled with confusion and uncertainly. Eventually, you make some choices, you lurch forward, and you live your life. I think retirement is exactly the same, and I’m learning how to do it as the months go by.
I’m trying to learn more about depression in the senior population (of which I’m a solid member now) after having focused for years on adolescent depression. I hadn’t known that depression is common in older persons, and that it shouldn’t be considered a normal part of aging. In fact, symptoms of depression in older people can manifest differently than in younger persons, and is often misdiagnosed as a sign of another illness.
Now that I am aware of it, it feels like a topic that bears closer examination. A good place to start is at the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). And here’s a great personal account of living with and addressing depression.
Shoot for awesome or glorious, knowing that some days will be neither. But if your days fall short more often than not, ask for support from someone you know and trust. And if someone you know is exhibiting some signs of depression, start a conversation.